What'd ur attitude to "Wife Exchange"?

Topic(11):What'd ur attitude to "Wife Exchange"?Ｈunk
wife exchange...in simple words..is two or more pairs of spouses get together to exchange their wives temporarily

betty
crazy .I had my head shot

xizhousheng
you guys just keep talking and thinking, i am gonna watch out for you, it's kinda a tabu

^temmy^
wow~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~that is is....i can't believe what i heard in here....
exchange student.... i don't have heard of " wife exchange..."

hwfivy
It conforms to the human's innermost feeling,on the other country it go far away with the law,morality and....

Xizhousheng
it's not unbelievable, but ridiculous still,

chris
why not says husband exchang?
the same ,right?

hwfivy
Dear Chris,it also touches the husband exchange.

Xizhousheng
wise man is just gonna listen but never share opinion, so, let's see who is the wisest man there

Ｈunk
quote liyinhe's words as saying...she thinks wife exchange is a helpful complimentarity to the marriage life,can address some issues which the marriage itself can't solve, for example, sex fatigue, though it may impact the traditional marriage,but won't upset it. but more people can't accept it..thinking it's irrational...and immoral behaviors...

Yeung
anyone what to exchange his wife with others,i think no one of you is willing to do it.

xizhousheng
i'd like to say , you're right,but i fear it is 'not as popular as ever b4, what am i supposed to do, your honor

xizhousheng
yes, yeung ,they won't do like that rather than they are ones who're exchanged

Ｈunk
I don't think it's impossible to become a prevasive idea in China...just like decades ago...getting divorced was regarded by majority as a very shameful thing...but nowadays it's very normal phenomenon

Hwfivy
Hello,hunk,gets divorcing is very very different from the exchange wife you mentioned.

Stone
If wife permutable words, can that also call a wife?

xizhousheng
but , you know, i have thinking, psychologist, idea of it will become acceptable in china partly, because we are having multiplex value of culture ,even sex, let's just make something happen, your honor

hwfivy
Anyway,it keeps the husband or the wife loyal and faithly at one time.

Ｈunk
well..Ivy..wife exchange and love affairs..which one is less moral in your mind?

chris
i think just uncivilized people will do it

xizhousheng
it's not shameful to get divorced and love affairs,even ONS, :) people don't gotta be ashame on it

hwfivy
Of course the love affairs keeping deep. As it is underground

Ｈunk
On the contrary..Chris...most of them are well-educated person

Xizhousheng
it's how our society are being developing

hwfivy
It express the human being's original thought:love what we love and do not consider too much.

Ｈunk
both wife and husband has their love affairs in secret...do you think it's more acceptable?

hwfivy
It is acceptable to last a family . Especially it is good to the child. So it is a social responsiblity.

xizhousheng
guys have been mad and ashameful at wife exchange,but how would you react at ONS?

stone
Everybody has a secret, I feel the most people can accept

chris
so i think they'er a little abnormal

Ｈunk
according to your ideas...last a family is more important...if wife exchange is better than love affairs to last a family..will you choose the former?

hwfivy
Hello stone,we just accept everyone to enjoy his secret,but not the exchange wife.

Xizhousheng
she(linyinhe) sorta has 3 principle of sex that should be protected

hwfivy
On the condition that we have exchanger wife,how will it to last the family.

Xizhousheng
first of all, it happens among adults

Ｈunk
but wife exchange is not forced...it's spontaneous

hwfivy
Lasting means the relation with the couple and the child,but the child is the most important.

Xizhousheng
secondly, it doesn't happen in public

stone
If there is love, why want commutation?

xizhousheng
finally, it gotta happen by willing,

Ｈunk
That means both sides accept it...but love affairs is not that way

Xizhousheng
so, what would you say about that, is that unreasonable


Ｈunk
XiZhou...you mean you think love affairs is less acceptable by you than you to the wife exchange?

Hwfivy
Just like the Chinese saying:The wiseful judger will not argue the family affairs.

Xizhousheng
love affairs gotta be more shameful than wife exchange ,even ONS,it's exactly what i say, guys, just criticize as fierce as you want,

Ｈunk
Ivy..wife exchange is also one kind of family affairs...it's personal..

Xizhousheng
but what we are talking is realy about what's the standard in moral aren, we've gotten psychologist there, ask him what he thinks about it,

xizhousheng
you guys are gonna find out that most of us are dead wrong, yes, we are

hwfivy
Who is the psychologist here,will hunk please introduce for us,thanks

Xizhousheng
in moral leve, i do think love affairs is less acceptable than the wife exchange?

Ｈunk
all of us can be the psychologist...bcoz everyone has their ideas to this issue...and we can analysis with your own ideas

Jason
Just psychologist is not enough,it should be sexul psychologist

Ｈunk
If love affairs is happen in the family...I think no need to sustain the family any longer...getting divorced is the best way to solve it out

Hwfivy
Hello jason,you are so humurous.

Hwfivy
Nowmally chinese couple shared the same opinion with hunk.

jason
thanks~

xizhousheng
wife exchange just happens by willings of fours, right, but love affair is hidden in deliberately by one of spouse

hwfivy
YOU are welcome.

Ｈunk
Bcoz live together physically...but separated mentally is a painful thing

Ｈunk
and without passion...you can't get more satisfaction either physically or mentally

hwfivy
In some sense,human have to give vent to others.

Hwfivy
Without passion I think the party can been satisfied physically.

Xizhousheng
yes,as far as what i know about westen couples, they just tend to decide to get divorced or separated when something like love affair happen

hwfivy
To let the party calm down and think it over .

big_diver
Majority of western people are traditional

hwfivy
Without passion I think the party can been satisfied physically.
I don't think so...in the family..between the wife and husband...without love..without satisfactory sex life..I'm a bit straight on this issue

Xizhousheng
i'd rather than take last one of having love affair and exchaging wife if i have to choose

stone
All of the loves of now are foams loves

hwfivy
It conforms to the humaity.

Xizhousheng
someone is realy a psychologist,no words but be respectable to him

hwfivy
So even some one who have love affairs,still they do keep the original wife.

Xizhousheng
let's applause for him, and that's him,it is........

Ｈunk
morality sometimes is just a word to limit a person to go after his or her freedom...date back to the ancient China...read the story about PanJingLian...it's not a human thing

hwfivy
But we need the morality to maintenance the basic principal of the society,don't you think so.

Hwfivy
Otherwise how will the society be in a mess.

Ｈunk
You know...how big the change of the definition to the morality in China...esp when we talk about it in the marriage life..

big_diver
It is not a human thing just to those people who are no human

Xizhousheng
oh, that's unreasonable and unfair,hwfivy, i think, there's gotta some priority in it,mental level is kinda more important for normal people to sustain their marriage, right, psychologist

Xizhousheng
just abandon such unmeaningless sex gotta be the only way to come back to family, just like ONs

Ｈunk
And Ivy..I admit we should conform to some basic principles in the society...be a legal civilian...but wife exchange is not a issue violating the law..

xizhousheng
but trace it longer, we're gonna find that hominid tend to share everything they have ,food , house even wife,

Ｈunk
Just like the couples watch the A-class movies at home...you can't think they are violating the law...it's their own life..

Hwfivy
so the exchanging is not the normal exchanging we mentioned I think.Is that:among 2 couple,each get divorced and then choose the other's party by registration?

xizhousheng
psychologist would like to make idea happen in our minds, shall we accepte it, shall we, yes, we shall, coz it 's totally reasonable,

Ｈunk
Ivy...wife exchange doesn't mean they broke up and then reunit as the new family

Xizhousheng
i have to say, there are two different things we have to tell apart them from each other,

hwfivy
However if the A couple's husband do not like the B couple's wife ,then he will choose the C party's wife,so as a result very many family will been involved into the exchanging,how will you control the exchanging>?

Xizhousheng
sth illeagle and sth immoral

Ｈunk
Wife exchange is wholly based on their own willing and on the principle of never hurt each other

big_diver
it is sick

xizhousheng
and now, what we are talking about is realy about if sth like wife exchange is immoral

big_diver
and potential disaster of marriage and social structure